This past weekend I attended a workshop dedicated to empowering women to be the best they can be. There were many words of affirmation speaking to the beauty of who we are and the diversity of who we are. It was awesome to witness women being uplifted & celebrated and I left there feeling like I could take on the world but I also left there contemplating why women, particularly women of color, have difficulty speaking life into one another.
Let me ask you a question? What is the first thought that comes into your mind when a woman you don’t know walks into the room? Are you wondering if she could be someone you could connect with or are you looking her up and down judging her outfit? I’ll be honest, I’ve done both but I’ve done more judging than trying to connect. Those thoughts of judgement always turn into words of criticism. The bible tells us we have the power of life and death in our words we only need to choose (Proverbs 18:20).Too often though we choose death instead of life.
Somewhere along the line we get it in our heads that we are better than the next one and therefore have the right to judge and speak negatively about her either to her face or to others. I previously talked about the negative thoughts we have about ourselves but a lot of those thoughts stem from words that people have said to us.
Here’s the thing God wants us to be a positive influence in people’s lives. We are the light of the world and we are made to reflect Him (Matthew 5:13; Genesis 1:27). God is love and as His creation we should be love as well. There are countless examples in the bible where Jesus spoke life into someone’s situation-the woman at the well, the woman caught in adultery, the man with the legions of demons and even the thief on the cross. After each encounter with Jesus those individuals lives were changed for the better. Not because He excused their behavior but because He gave them hope.
Are your words leaving people hopeful or hopeless?
Join me next time insight on how we talk to God.